I am not a guru on this subject.

[tithonium]

So, I've got a friend who's having a bit of a... crisis may or may not be too strong a word, I don't know... with her relationship. I'm going to be vague with the details as I sketch out the problem...

She's been with her boy for many years, they're both monogamy-leaning, want to be together... but he's got feelings for another woman too, and is very confused by this. So, she doesn't really know how to deal with this, he doesn't really know how to deal with this. She came to me, 'cause she knows I'm poly, and basically just wanted to hear that it /can/ work. I gave what little advice I could, and said I was happy to talk or help out in any way I could. I don't know how much help I was.

So, I come to you, reader. Any sage advice I should pass on to my friend as she tries to figure out What To Do?

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[runnerwolf.livejournal.com]

Are they completely honest with each other about their feelings? Towards each other, as well as other people. That's the only way I have seen it work for any period of time, and several times that has been the downfall of the ones I have seen.